Intersectionality. What experiences in identity do you carry?

 Have you heard of this word?

Intersectionality.

Well, I am thankful to 2020 for bringing this word into my vocab. Because this has DEFINITELY been the year for experiencing a multitude of continuous microaggressions and what is defined as "toxicity" from those who have had been going about their "business" for far too long.

This is NOT a political post, this is just share that in many areas of my life I have been deciding how to approach discussing that the conversations that some people are having, as justified as they feel in having it, are dissentive, uninviting, and not safe to those who experience multiple "lashes" throughout the day.

This has been a hard week. This has been a hard month....and as open as I share in my posts, it's not half of what is experienced...even in a "socially-distanced" space as we are living in now.

Watch your words. Be more compassionate and curious to the needs of those around you. You have MANY hearers and they are hearing more than you think you are actually saying....not because they may have sensitivity to it, but probably because you are not hearing what it is you are laying down.

#oneanotherlove #beMindful #bekind #youarebeingheard #whatareyousaying #safespace #microaggressions #Sawubona #ofgreatervalue #icareforothers

It is good to do the work of making adjustments...seeing if there is a way to improve.

 Good morning!

Back at it in my usual time frame and you know what? It feels better for me and my head space.

The silence of 'not wanting to wake anyone up from their slumber and rest space' mode. Moving around slower and mindfully. Getting in my mobility and stretches. LOL "coaching " myself to lay down just a little longer and get my language and energy right. Allow myself the space to imagine my daily practice in my future life. Connecting in with joy and gratitude (and feeling the fullness of it) for all that is in my life. Journalling out my inspiration and ideas and setting direction, steps, and intentions to it (it's already here...get to work.)

Morning routine. It is SO important for me. That's why I spent the last few weeks messing with it LOL It is good to do the work of making adjustments...seeing if there is a way to improve. I improved my sleep and recovery. I improved my exercise and mobility. I kind messed with my hydration timing and discovered sipping is better....and I am still tweaking it. And I shifted my timing back to giving more space for my inspiration 'hour'.

It's the foundation for my day. And helps me be more productive than just springing out the gate running.

What does YOUR morning routine look like?

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #morningmotivation #timeforYou #itsyourjourney #makeitcount #mindsetmatters #biggerpicture

Seeing how far you've come

 Good morning!

It has felt like such a long time since I have shared and connected.

This is usually a time of year I get reflective on the year I have had and start setting my intentions for the year ahead.

The process is referred to as "Minding the Gap". As I am at a point in my direction where the next step is a much bigger one than the 1% steps I feel I have been taking, I have come up against, in myself, a bit of resistance and I am grateful that I know to recognize resistance and feeling off and still going forward with my direction and and tasks each day to maintain momentum....even if it may not be as much as I was doing, it is still part of the process in moving me forward.

I'm grateful for how I have grown in the contribution I share with the world. I have loved connecting to people who had turned to me to give my perspective on the things in 2020 that have hit and sparked concern. I am grateful that my journey with MCS and AI's, having family in hospital for rare genetic response, and our way of life and eating have sparked much interest and has provided much support to those around us.

What are some things over the last year or so that you are grateful for?

#thankyouGod #timetoreflect #Gratitude #Thanksgiving #givingthanks #itsYourJourney #makeitcount #oneanotherlove #mindingthegap

4Franca Preddie, Delice Coffey and 2 others

You "know" all the right things to do yet... How to apply for better results

 Good morning!

HAHAHA...Don't you love it when....

You "know" all the right things to be doing and yet....

Sleeping... I "had" the BEST sleep hygiene just over a month ago. Mmmmm...just thinking about it right now just has me feeling all warm and cozy

AND then... life changed. LOL I would like to say it was a subtle shift like not recognizing anyone anymore because they have no face or being couped up with your kids doing online schooling/gaming for months...("LOL I saw you create that "ghost" desktop you keep switching to"...."don't think I didn't hear your key sequencing! Get back to your class "tab" ) .

No, it was on all levels. Career, family, etc. ... And for me, that meant I had to add dedicated head "space" to the additional points I "needed" to wrap my head around...

Journalling and reviewing my direction with all those "things" that have come up front for me has been a "life saver". I get to get it down out of my head and out in a tangible way to "look" at it and all of what is going on and then choose what tasks I am giving "more" priority to and when.

WHEW!

And it's taking some time to adjust back into a routine, but it has morphed in ways that I celebrate....I missed the evening "dogpile" the boys used to cuddle up and crash on me with...and now, that's back. I give space...MORE space for us to all just be in each other's space LOL (that's a lot of space ) and share and talk and be open.... ( I would have said time, but it's not about the time, it's about mentally allowing there to be no constraint on the experience and opening up to present-moment presence). We always dim the lights or switch to amber light at a certain time... we reduce screen time...we have dinner earlier so we don't feel heavy going into bed...we take turns praying and then, like clockwork we start yawning and stretching and curling up. I tuck the boys in and then I head to my own bed. This is the part that has changed a bit for me... and that will soon shift.

It's life. Expect change...adjust along the way. And find ways to connect in and with love as often as you can.

#thankyouGod #gettingrest #journalling #reviewyourdirection #4pillars #EYL #BEadaptable #Itsallgood #Yougotthis #Trusttheprocess #divinelysupported

Watch how you grow….and your vision too…

 

Good morning!

Watch how you grow….and your vision too…

There have been some great people in our history who have done great things. They studied and dreamed. They surrounded themselves with brilliant masterminds that helped to build on their vision and how they show up in it.

And at some point, "their" vision became "the" vision, with many others "seeing" it with them and what grew became a legacy.

This growth and development of the vision doesn't necessarily leave the "architect " behind. The Receiver of the gifted inspiration stands remembered in the minds of those who would carry on the legacy and the vision.

What I have pondered recently … as I have been "revisiting" my own direction in life and watching other legacies unfold is… we are ALL growing...one way or another. There is an underlying (or mindful) "vision" at play in your life.

You pictured it over and over again. Either in a beautiful unfolding of a wondrous and victorious story where things work out in your life to your joy and fulfillment….OR...you see dark corners and the things in life you don't like or have made you feel uncomfortable and you are running from it to a place that feels like freedom, never to see or experience the "discomfort" again.

One vision is created focused on thriving and wonder that is open to going beyond even the edges of what you can add….and the other is surviving in a life that gives you room to just breathe.

Sometimes survival is enough...but it usually isn't. That "discomfort" of your own need for growth and expansion will come again. There is something in us that craves to thrive.

Those who have done great things through holding and growing great visions knew that growth was an inevitable part of the process. And they allowed for adaptation to SERVE the "intention" of the vision. This allowed for the vision to become part of the legacy...the legacy serving to the vision… and so forward on both would continue…

My vision is bigger...sustainable and beneficial beyond just me (because, let's be honest, some "great" visions are not sustainable or beneficial for everyone )

...connected to a great legacy...part of a big vision that I can only imagine in part...and therefore, it is as if my "present" and momentary discomforts, inconveniences, challenges, and personal resistances (attached to survival and outcomes I dreamt of that feel like freedom) are seriously dwarfed, and given the nod of "expected and foreseen" in relation to the vision that "I" am now a part of and no long this little glimmer or gem in my hand.

That is the beauty of the growth of vision...the shifting roles, the unfolding, the EVOLUTION of our very being.

What big vision do you have for yourself, your life, and those around you?

#thankyouGod #biggerpicture #seeyourself #Holdthevision #Seeothers #Sustainable #beneficial #growthmindset #mindsetmatters #doyouseewhatIsee

Back to school...in-person 2020

 First day of school! 2nd quarter in-person. No idea what to expect, but I am grateful that they made the choice for themselves. I am also grateful we had Darlene @dpmentor take our photos so we had great shots of the boys for their first and last years of school.

I'll see that at pickup with snacks (and sanitizer as always )

#backtoschool #2ndquarter #schoolphotos #afroboys #naturalhair #redheads #proudmomma