Why even bother….? Get past non-serving language

 Good mawning!!

Why even bother….?

Usually, when I wake up in the morning, I lay there for a bit. I fill my thoughts with gratitude. I express that gratitude in prayer. And it from that “spark” in my day I spring up into the “life” of a new day.

But what happens when I don’t dive into the pool of gratitude or the imagination of the good day ahead of me?

Years ago, I would wake up by negative thoughts swimming in my head. Criticizing me that I could do different in this and that… Sometimes I would wake up gasping for air, panicked and thankful I woke up alive in a new day.

This time, with memorable “dreams”, I woke up with…”Why even bother? You’re wasting your time.”

My heart was heavy. Feels almost depressive but it’s not. Is it the narrative I’ve been running? Is it the non-serving language that has been plaguing me? 

All I know is….I’m not going to waste time searching for a conclusion to peg it on. If I ever hit this “space”, my “job” is to let it be. I accept that it’s the current (yet temporary) state I am in. AND THEN get back into the habits and practices of my morning routine.

Just “start” back over again. This time being more intentional and directed about it.

You see, I’ve been down that rabbit hole before. Chasing something to “blame” being out of sorts on. Once I peg the “culprit” or the reason, then I can actively do the work to “oppose” its influence.

BUT as “satisfying” as that may seem, the journey and “hunt” for that proverbial “goat” to blame doesn’t serve you.  You spend a lot of time and energy…A LOT of energy mentally and physically, invested in a direction that may lead you to a dead end. A very unsatisfying “end” at that.

It takes you on a path AWAY from your goal, your vision, your dream. MAYBE you find your way back after sacrificing this goat on a foreign altar, but what was gained?

What I have found is… that leaving “it” (a.k.a. The “reason” to blame) suspended along with the rest of the “maybe’s” and continuing on down your clearer path will bring you both the results/goals/intentions you wanted as well as more clarity. More clarity toward your vision, in how you feel, and even possibly toward the trigger that had you feeling “off” in the first place… if it even matters at that point.

So I have many choices before me…

• Go down the rabbit hole? NAH! I don’t  think so. My energy is valuable to me.

• Dive back into my “Morning routine”? Eventually…

• Journal out some language? Yeah maybe…as long as it serves well

• Journal around my vision and outcome? Yeah! This one. Then it will also highlight “non-serving language” along the way.

I’m grateful for the extra “tools” in my “life coaching” kit. The 4 Pillars mindset system I use and share has helped many others in their mindset and personal growth journeys. If your interested in learning more, please feel free to message me instead of struggling on your own. Because we can enjoy being supported on our journeys with the right tools available to us.

#thankyouGod #getbackontrack #staythecourse #dontchasedistractions #prideofownership #personalmastery #takestime #getsupport #shortentimeline #4Pillars #EYL #mindsetcoach

#practicewhatIpreach #walkthetalk #lifetothefull #onlyhuman #Ihaveemotions #metoo

Supernova for January 2022

I saw a calendar notification that I had set on my calendar and had no idea what it was for... January 1, 2022... "Supernova event". I even left a note to myself to look it up. The reminder was set years ago....

It made me think to try that with other things as well...

Here's what I found

See a Star Explode in 2022

I am love

 I am  💗

And I choose.... and in the moments where I am feeling low, I know I AM "chosen" with Divine intention.

AND... I am grateful to those in my life who CHOOSE me as well and have openly expressed so.

ANNNNDDDD... I openly express that I hold love for the gifts of life you all are and help this beautiful world to be as it is.

ANNNNNDDDDDD... I LOVE "love"....

#thankyouGod #divineintervention #oneanotherlove #WeAre #GreaterStill #Bigpicture #LoveFirst

What did you want to be growing up?

 A mom, an architect, interior designer, fashion, designer, teacher and a doctor.

I knew from the age of 5. I pursued them all to some degree. And today, in some way, I apply what I learned to the life I am living now.

Oddly enough, the first option inspired the "need" for the rest.

What is yours?

Leaving the world better than I found it.

 Good mawning!

"Leaving the world better than I found it".

That's what I read this morning and it reminded me that my dad would say and show me the same.

Every space he would pass through...he'd pick up some trash and put it in a bin. He would move things so they wouldn't be in someone else's way. He would wipe down the counter and faucet after he used it when we were out in public (as a kid when he took me to the washroom). I still do the last one today.

Thinking of the little ways to make someone's experience better.

That's the journey I am sharing with my young men now. That's also the experience I have shared with those I've worked with.

This weekend as we did weekly review, we reflected on the value and influence of our lives. Wee saw how drastically different our lives would be without one another...without the contribution of our family...without their beautiful influence.

The next day, this guy stood taller. Probably because he also blew out his afro LOL He's also helping me to put my next course together. Improving your performance and sleep.

Knowing our value. Appreciating our contributions in this world, and making sure those contributions are good and help make things better. That's why I love coaching, mentoring, and teaching.

Helping others to get their best out of life. And hopefully that helps them to do the same for another in some way. I'm on a mission for #oneanotherlove.

Happy Monday folks.

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #Divinegifts #INjoy #raisingmen #leavethingsbetter #greaterstill #contribution #ofgreatValue #lifetothefull #betterperformance

#bettersleep

What “kind” of person do you want to be?

 Good mawning!

This morning as I had a mini devo with my oldest, we explored the ideas around the ideas of …getting stuck in the past, perfectionism, narcissism, and Anakin Skywalker.

It was sparked from a quote/statement I posted and shared yesterday about starting with an intention into becoming who you are.

BUT…what if that intention (or entertained thought) is a non-serving one? What then?

In the mindset “lingo” that myself and others who practice the 4 pillar EYL system, there is something called “Bound Nature”. And often times, you are looking to interrupt this ‘nature’ before it gains momentum and “becomes” something more…usually something that is not wanted or beneficial.

This time, we went through the stages from the statement (Intention, behaviour, habit, practice, second nature and then the becoming of who you are…) and looked at the “evolution” of Anakin Skywalker “becoming” Darth Vader.

The key is, interrupt!

Don’t progress to the next level. It is often a choice made at the thought/intention level. And more often than not unfortunately, it happens without extra consideration because there wasn’t a vision to guide us in the first place.

Build a vision.

Of who it is that you want to become. Start with the “end” in mind perhaps…. Give yourself some time to even gift yourself the glimpse of what that would look like. Then sprinkle in “stuff” in the journey that you MIGHT want to gravitate towards and how that would feel.

What “kind” of person do you want to be? Loving, thoughtful, romantic, family man/woman/person, adventurous… ?

What actions/behaviours does a loving person display? A loving parent display? A great friend and partner display? How does their daily habits let you know they are these things?

Anyways, the main point was…observe and choose and make adjustments and interruptions BEFORE you become something that you never imagined becoming. (A.K.A. Check yo’self before you wreck yo’self… )

#thankyouGod #checkingin #biggerpicture #LoveFirst #oneanotherlove #choice #Choosinggood #HarvesttheGood #beIntentional #HoldtheVision #Imagine #GreaterStill

Be celebrated

 Good mawning!

Let others celebrate you. Let yourself be celebrated by those around you. Celebrate in the "witnessing" of Divine radiance through you.

When I "reflect" on myself, I am in "observer" mode. Not that I have "forgotten what I "look" like, but I do observe in wonder at "who" has been created.

Recently I have been through a LOT of "evolutionary" circumstances.

I don't "feel" like the person I was "reflecting" even a month ago. Or the month before that.

SO to "see" these photos come back into my consideration, I am honoured that I got to share in the journey that THIS woman, who is pictured, experienced.

I reflect on the experience, I spend time in the presence, and then I consider the possibilities for the future.

My inside experience is my own. The outer reflection is not all my "own". And I get to participate from the inside... I can look down at my legs and arms... the rest is reflection.

Have you reflected on "who" you get to be lately?

Give it a go.

#thankyouGod #divinegifts #weAre #greaterstill #oneanotherlove #Lovefirst #mirrortime #whatareyoureflecting #Sawubona #SeeYourself #enjoythejourney

Highlight of the week. Heartful moments

 Highlight of the week.

Cooking this curried pumpkin soup while on a call with my cousin.

I hope she's drinking the dandelion tea I suggested , but what matters most is the connection.

What was a highlight in your week?

#familymeal #vegan #vegetarian #plantbased #family #connection #connectionports #encouragement #soup

Yesterday I accepted where I was at.

 Good mawning!

Yesterday I accepted where I was at.

After a week of trying to adjust my sleep to reflecting the "time change" (which is something I never do), I finally just accepted I had done what I could and my main goal was to get in my days worth of rest.

It worked. I got the rest I needed, I met up with my friend to do a photoshoot for their business (the jacket is for sale ), @marigold_oldbutgold , and then had a great sleep last night.

We all have a unique-to-us rhythm, and that includes sleep. AND, we are also adaptable...it just takes time. I found a balance that works for me (at this time).

The key is...

Keeping it Super simple

Being consistent

And...not forgetting to enjoy/appreciate the process.

Just by working on the one thing, I was productive in other areas. And I am not done...there is still more time I am allowing myself to be in this "shift".

It's actually the most "fun" change I have applied this year.

Message me or comment if you are interested.

Now to go enjoy the rest of my weekend

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #trusttheprocess #simpleandconsistent #bettersleep

#timeforchange #timechanges #beAdaptable #enjoythejourney #joinme