Hair Day for #1

 

Detangle and wash day for #1 today. He'll be fluffing out the 'fro in no time

It's nice playing with the curls and seeing all the scarlet red hairs in his head.

#afroboys #naturalhair #curlyhair #detanglerbrush #finehair #ilovemyhair #selfcare

What remains? Connecting and celebrating....and loving others.

 Good morning!

Serious post!

What remains?

So this is where my studies and thoughts went this morning. Let's IMAGINE....

The physical needs of your neighbours are all taken care of and THEY are able to provide for that need. Everyone is already given what they need and more. The needs of your healing and the physical healing of those around you is available, affordable, and possible.

Now what? What is needed?

As I imagined all that it is that I am grateful for and have...I started feeling "free" to give myself space to consider the ways in which I would be creative. How I would manage and take care of the space and environment in which I live. How I would collaborate with others on projects I have in mind to do, because we would all have the resources to contribute to seeing it through to its fruition...cleaning land, water, and sea. Travelling and exploring and meeting and respecting others in their loved spaces. Connecting and celebrating....and loving others.

Letting go of the judgment that someone else has a judgment and that I am to judge against the judgment they hold against others or myself. I would be free of that also. Truly celebrating a mindset that is curious and accepting, looking for the dynamic growth and expansion in all.

One another love and collaboration is waiting to be enjoyed in all seasons of life. That is the ongoing gift that calls to us. And to remind one another that we are ALL meant for it as it is ever-resent in our reach.

Today, I am going to enjoy holding higher and steady value for those around me...appreciating the wonder of their impact and existence...beyond any limiting perceptions and more aligned to the bigger picture. Because we are ALL here for a big reason that serves #oneanotherlove .

#ThankYouGod #biggerpicture #nodebtremaining #Lovefirst #WeARE #IAM #greaterstill #alreadyhere #IamHere #Sawubona #Ubuntu #UnityinHumanity

A few not-so-common things about me

 Good morning!

I could share how my slow and steady reboot is going well...how the un-sexy, little, often-overlooked tasks and activities done daily are making a bigger difference that I even expected...BUT, there is this trend going around about sharing the realness ... the non "highlight" reel of my thoughts and days and I thought I would chime in...

I wake up each morning and do a side pose in the hall mirror looking at my silhouette...I do a head nod and smile because I like what I see. I'm Not where I would like to be at, but I'm not bashing myself either.

I get sad sometimes...when I notice there is an old story still being told by me...or an unserving story someone is stuck in...I feel it.

I set a plan for the day with only 3 main tasks. Other than that they get ranked and slotted to be done at another time.

I have a smallish window of activity that I like to work in... LOL and it lines up more with UK time.

I am up early because I like alone time. Me and me...me and God...me and my study time...me in my highest energy zone...EARLY! Then the rest of the day I do the other "things" and connect with others.

I don't get bored. My head is ready with the next thing to ponder.

I don't like to sweat. That's from an experience I had that left me convulsing...

I have beautiful and sensitive skin. I wash with oil and water. And I love my freckles.

I don't like to put myself out there after a number of people in my past saying "Did I ask you?" and then those same people saying "Why didn't I say something? " LOL the combo of mad and other feelings is what it feels like I am avoiding...and then I still reach out because I see a connection people are needing to be made...

I like to stay low key. Mainly from really aggressive encounters with people and being the "only one" uniquely experiencing what I do in the space. I don't mind crowds of people for this reason... feels almost safer than small unfamiliar or edgy groups.

I used to feel like a perfectionist until I met other "perfectionists" Now I continue to reframe "perfection" (with beauty).

I used to swear a lot (sailor-mode). It's not all "done" yet ...and people expect me not to swear WAY more than they realize...

I am calm because I chose calm (not by force...more so resting state and possibly because I move quickly THROUGH the rest)....more like the Hulk though

I love my own company. My smile lights me up...and anyone who smiles... (oh well right now)

I love just being around people in mundane activities.

I have grown an immense awe for the creation of humanity. Scientifically (from early on ...Bio fan) and spiritually.

I show up where I feel welcome.

I love creating a space of "welcome".

Most animals/birds/bugs love me...LOL which sometimes scares me, especially in the wild. I think it's a healthy respect

I embrace a multi-faceted view of myself...like a diamond. I like my "wholeness" and weigh moments, etc. as serving or not serving...

We can talk about ourselves in safety...or at least we should be able to. Find your safe spaces...and you are welcome to reach out in PM if you need. I AM here to talk about mental wellness.

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #Divinegifts #oneanotherlove #supported #nojudgementzone #biggerpicture #letstalk #mindsetcoach

Stuffed acorn squash

 About the other night...

Stuffed roasted acorn squash. Everyone loved it. Now to figure out what all went into the tahini dressing so it can be added to the book

#plantbased #vegetarian #vegan #glutenfree #familymeal #fromscratch

Stretch your comfort "zone" in increasing measure

 Good morning!

A thought came to me yesterday as I was out for a walk in the bossy wind with a friend...

"You may not be confident because you are not comfortable. So expand your comfort zone."

Do you enjoy knowing that you can be comfortable?

Think about that bed and those warm covers you just crawled out of. Or maybe you are still under the covers LOL.

But let's break that down. We are designed for adaptability and change. That's why we have a brain and system that LEARNS.

We ALSO have a love for SAFETY. To know that our survival is in check and that we are not at threat.

And both of those are actually meant for one another. As we continue to navigate through our day and our world, we learn so that we can be adaptable so that we can ensure our safety.

I like learning new things that expand my awareness and "understanding" of things I may have an idea around. I like to stay agile and adaptable because truthfully, I am not the only moving part in my existence. There are other factors at play and I like to navigate in a way that can keep me moving forward.

And the thing I learned most, so far, is that when you try something new or decide to make a change, it's not going to be perfect right out the gate. You may very well meet up with a whole lot of resistance. You may very well miss the mark and suck at doing it well in the beginning.

THAT'S OKAY!

It's a part of the process. Part of how learning works. It's like picking up a rock and examining it from all sides. Takes some time to navigate what it is. THEN, try something! When I decided to switch up my workout routine to one that was less time to do, I only gave it 2.5 minutes of commitment. And that was a part of the 5 minute morning routine that I had before the boys got up (when they were younger). Water, workout, post workout shake. DONE! And after I mastered that, I worked on adding more.

In increasing measure....that scripture is one of my favourite reminders...add in the good, in layers, in increasing measure. That's how we become practiced and intimate in our understanding...that how we build confidence. Constantly in the process of increasing our capacity and stretching the boundaries of our "comfort" zone.

Is there something you want to be more confident in or feel more comfortable with doing? Smaller steps, added in layers....in increasing measure.

#ThankYouGod #biggerpicture #comfortzone #growthmindset #increasingmeasure #IncreaseCapacity #trustedwithlittle #Luke16ten #supportyourgrowth #youareloved #SafeAndEffective

I may very well be...NOT your type of -ism.

 Good morning!

I may very well be...NOT your type of -ism.

Over the last few weeks, I have left groups that stand more for being justified than being kind. To be clear, it's not that there were not kind people in the group, but those voices were often and quickly hampered by the justified "awareness" of others lording it over the unknowing.

You see, in the groups that I participate that needed a change and were there for the change, quickly course-corrected themselves and RE-ALIGNED with that loving intent that they created the space with. And I will tell you, not only did those groups experience MAJOR growth in the last month, but the participants and members of those groups grew as well. In their love of others, acceptance, compassion, and of course, their kindness toward another.

Whatever group you are a part of, you should consider how they are showing up in kindness and consideration of those around them.

I get that what people strongly identify with and as is what draws them to those in like-minded spaces. But do we pause and consider...what would I be without this identity? What would I be without this label or life choice? What would I advocate that doesn't require an "ism" or label? What would I reflect into the world without the label?

I'm okay with the edit....with the lightening of the load. I am okay with identifying back to a core value or basic in my life by which I operate from. And from there I can add and "ungroup" accordingly.

What is something that you stand for on a universal basis? One of my biggies is #oneanotherlove How about you?

#thankyouGod #honestlypeople #LoveFirst #Kindness ##Wearegreaterstill #compassion #biggerpicture #IAm #Divineunion #WeAre #humanity