Interrupt and show up for YOUR best outcome. We are made to adapt

 Good morning!

Soon it's nap time. Yup. One of the busiest days in this challenging week.

But when you commit to living out the fullness of life, there will be moments, days, and weeks that don't seem to right.

For me, it was a flood of non-serving head chatter that just wouldn't shut up and let me sleep . So I got up and INTERRUPTED the conversation the "voice" was trying to drag me into. I took out my journal and started writing. And I suspended judgments and conclusions. I showed up with #Lovefirst and then observed with compassion how things would play out.

After all that, I was hopeful. I was open to seeing solutions, I was free from the constricting I felt from the looping banter in my head waiting for me to jump on in...nope. Not the kind of party I want to be at today or this weekend

Allow yourself the space to wiggle, adapt, and adjust for YOUR best outcome. It may not be what you wanted or expected in the short term, but it will keep you aligned and balanced in your long game.

Okay...time for nap!

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #Divinegifts #INjoy #Sawubona #learnyourlanguage #Trusttheprocess #Triad #expectbetter #suspend #allowthepause #letloveflow #harvestthegood

In my feelings 2020

 

Release....

There are so, SO many people right now...holding themselves and withholding...the flow of feeling...the flow of emotions...and it's hurting them.

I understand...I couldn't feel as deeply as I wanted to. So much of my identity was rooted in being logical. And as I felt myself slipping more and more into numbness (from trauma), I had a dear friend open up to me and she felt I was cold. She told me so...and so logically, I stepped back and observed myself. And she was right. I said the "right" things but I was lacking empathy for her situation.

Years later I prayed to have and "feel" compassion for others. The flood gates opened. And it was okay...I was in good Divine hands. And so when I feel raw...I am grateful for no longer being numb. For sharing with the journey of others...for seeing and recognizing that road I once travelled.

If you feel like you need a safe space...to share and flow and be (and be grounded), feel free to PM. I'll listen

#youarenotalone #ISeeyou #oneanotherlove

Are you connecting in with joy, play, and delight each day?

 Good morning! (Happy rising

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Are you connecting in with joy, play, and delight each day?

I thought about this yesterday while I was feeling quite accomplished by the time I got home from running errands. I enjoyed doing the farmer's walk with water jugs and noticing my increased strength and capacity. I felt at peace noticing that I really do celebrate being in the presence of one of my friends... and I love laughing with the boys.

It was the laughing part that surprised me the other day. And then it was the "surprised" part that surprised me. WHY was I surprised at the fact that I do indeed have laughter in my days? I asked my son if he thinks that I laugh a lot. And he answered yes. Hmph. Curious. When did that happen?

SO for some of you out there that have spent time with me, do you find that I laugh often?

Laughter IS medicine....joy is healing...smiling encourages and lightens up our days. All these things happen when we connect in with what brings us joy and delight. Now, this is not about trying to find and point out and blame the reasons why you are NOT happy. THIS is about being mindful to meet YOUR needs to connect in to those things that put a smile on your face.

For me, I was thinking about the 5 Love Languages and how "I" should also be mindful to encourage MYSELF through my own love languages. Is yours quality time? Then find ways to connect IN WITH others on a consistent basis that meets that need. Is it words of affirmation? One of mine is, and spending time journalling is one of those "connection ports" for me. It builds me up and it helps me.

WE need to be mindful that WE are getting OUR consistent doses of encouragement on a daily basis. I've built all mine into my daily routine. For me, they are non-negotiable. And the more and more consistent with them I am, the more "filled" I feel. Which is a good thing, especially as a mom of teens that are finding their own way in life.

AND when we surround ourselves with people that are mindful of what we need, and we RECEIVE the loving "gifts" that they are offering, that's bonus for us

Personally, I am choosing, starting today to ramp that up in certain relationships...AND it is already "hard" because I haven't been mindful of being in the practice of it. That's okay. I am willing to have that messy beginning so that I can enjoy the improvement in the future and maybe a smile or two along the way

Who brings a smile to your face or lightens the "burden" for you each day?

#ThankYouGod #joyanddelight #encourageToday #LoveLanguages #Oneanotherlove #Lovefirst #dailypractice #Sawubona #Ubuntu #WeAre #greaterstill #Trusttheprocess

You are in charge of the story that is played out

Good morning!

Be the director....
This weekend was full of all the "feels"....from LOVING the pure awesomeness of realizing I LOVE being IN the process of "better" ...all the way over to being reminded of when a deep and dear friendship had to go separate ways.
This weekend I was also involved in writing out a vision for how I would like to bring greater contribution to this world we live in. Putting words to the feelings and pictures can sometimes be challenging, ESPECIALLY if there happens to be another script being narrated in the background. 🙂 It felt like walking on set with a new script for the sequel and they haven't finished the "voice over" for the first movie.
Well, it's more like bringing in a new writing team, while the old team THOUGHT they were writing how the sequel would play out and they find out they have been replaced. YEAH! THAT is a better description of what it can be like when....you challenge the stories you are telling yourself that no longer serve you....or even better, were NOT sustainable or leading you in a direction you wanted to be going in.
So how do you know that first movie could use a better "sequel" writing team? How do you know that that story isn't serving you?
Well, I don't know about you, but for me, it starts with "judgment" language in my head. I find I start comparing things more, deciding on (concluding) what will be the outcome and it feels heavy...almost like I am getting ready for a fight and I get tense. LOL it seems quite subtle, but for me, when this happens, I step back and see if there is another possibility that can play out... another way I can look at the scenario and all the pieces of it...and if that other scenario is more compassionate, has a better outcome for ALL involved, is more connective, then I need to shift my "feelings" from the idea of "avoiding perceived conflict/discomfort" and flow with the compassion and connection that will yield a better "feeling" on the other side.
Sometimes we have that old writing team trying to find "work" in our head and in our lives. They wrote a great script once...an action thriller with a narrow escape, with the victim barely surviving, but they made it...and the sequel was going to be another movie, much the same, but in a different setting.
And that's why I brought in a new "team". I was tired of watching the same type of movie play out over and over again. I wanted to have different adventures....maybe a romantic comedy...maybe a cartoon classic where the main character becomes the best and evolving version of themselves (hahaha if you know me, you already know the movie LOL😅) and everyone benefits.
So we write stories....that's what we do. They have moved history forward for ages. They have helped to inspire and teach. They are the legacies we tell long after people have passed on....I want to help to write, and direct...I want to show up in a script that inspires and leaves a legacy that will help others to live beautiful, evolving, connected, and expansive lives. I want them to see the fullness of the life that they could live...with that "happiness" stuff, and smiles, and peace "written" in. And I want them to BE IN the movie of the script they are writing! You gotta show up to see how what you write plays out!!
So yeah, this weekend...I was adding to my "script"...revising, refining. This next scene will be interesting 😉 It may be a little packed and awkward, but the outcome should be good ❤

What story or script do you find you are writing?

#thankyouGod #thestorieswetell #writeanewstory #LifeToTheFullest #legacy #narrative #isitservingyou #VisionBuilding #createthepicture #sustainable #beneficial #WeAre #greaterstill #mindsetmatters

Shine like stars with loving intention

 

GOOD morning!

Me. 8 years ago. Loving being in my favourite boots, in my favourite slacks, feeling adventurous and super grateful for my dear friend. We were wearing matchy outfits 

Remembering and connecting in with yourself...feeling into those times you felt AMAZING "being" you, helps to ground us into the choices we can make towards nurturing our "amazing-ness" going forward. But it does take intention and consistency. 

That's what lovingly including YOU into the picture of your life and dreams is... intentional. You are required in this world to bring the change you are dreaming of. We (humanity and the world) want and need your awesomeness to shine. Let's "walk as shining stars" together.

I'm off to get a bit more "shiny" for myself today 

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #Divinegifts #INjoy #Sawubona #youareRadiance #weAre #greaterstill #Awesome #simpleandconsistent #shininglikestars

Sharpen what's dull in your life

 

I don't often reach for this knife to use in the kitchen. I actually avoid using it. WHY?

Because it's not sharp. It's one of the dullest knives in the kitchen. We use it to dig weeds, but not cut. We have other knives that are sharper and STAY sharp.

But today, I chose to use this knife. Just some rough cutting...until I came to the lemon. NOPE! It wouldn't break through the skin. So I went to wash, dry it, and put it away. And then, I decided to sharpen it.

I had such a "stink" face on...thinking of how I could've sharpened it the whole time .

Is there something you avoid because it's difficult, uncomfortable, or feels hard to work with? Have you tried sharpening...? Your abilities? Your coping strategies? Your perspective? Your mindset?

I changed the way I looked at the knife and gave it what it needed. Maybe there is more in life waiting for that same chance to be useful and seen with potential... hmmm, I should try that 

#sharpening #refinement #trusttheprocess #mindsetmatters #growthmindset 

Being okay in remembering our angel babies

 This morning my heart is heavy. My tears are flowing and my bed feels full with all our angel family all around us. Grateful.

Each year, the boys and I take a moment to remember and be present...with their "siblings". We do a meal and feel the bigness and fullness of our family.

I remember sitting in the doctor's office discussing our family planning options as we were "declared " at a 25% chance of having a child and we were already one miscarriage in our relationship together. The plans to start looking into adoption and we were ready to begin the paperwork and training. 5 weeks later I went in to have a pregnancy test done and it was confirmed...we were pregnant. She was SO excited for us and then she was hit with remembering our conversation only weeks before. She started listing of cautionary statements and not to announce until later on in the pregnancy...if we get there.

Well, we didn't go through with adoption. And that child is 17 years strong. And before he was blessed with the brother he has now, there were 6 others...I mourned each one. My dear friends mourned with me (S & S ). I mourned with them. I didn't go through our losses alone. They didn't go through their losses alone.

#pregnancyandinfantloss is honoured and recognized this month. We will celebrate the gift of our whole family with smiles and imagination...and compassionate and whole hearts. And this morning, I will be okay in remembering our angel babies too. 

The stories we tell ourselves....

 

Good morning!

The stories we tell ourselves....

LOL I am still recalling a conversation I shared last weekend. It was uplifting to share both the facts and then my choice and response....

I can't help but to think though.... "Don't talk to me about the facts or justifying yourself with "decisions" you made in heated and hurt moments....In moments you made choices that were based in judgments...If I told you the story...of what I lived and experienced...if I told you just the facts...you would be aghast, and often it leaves people shaking their heads. "

LOL I often shake my head too...remembering things that have occurred and been like "WOW! What was THAT!?!" And then I shift almost instantly to another state...into amazement, gratitude, wonder, and celebration. I don't remember when this all started for me....within the last 20 years perhaps?...where betrayal and deceit turned into irony and value. Where mocking and doubtful dismissals turned into encouragement and curiosity. I saw over and over how discouragement and disappointment turned into moments of beauty and amplification and worked out amazingly for my benefit.

So now, by adding in "we'll see...", by suspending my conclusion and waiting until after seeing how things DO work out, it washes me with a wave ... a wave of love, comfort, and understanding. Faith in how things will turn out, no matter how things "looked" in the moment.

Attaching to the stories in our lives and the conclusions around the facts we experienced means we have closed the book before the story was done. If we are going to write and tell ourselves stories shouldn't we wait it out? We haven't even fully read how things will play out. We didn't even see that it's a "choose your own adventure" book we were reading.

Don't get so caught up in the plot of one chapter that you have "written", when there is a whole book unfolding "life" through its pages.

Last year on this very same weekend, things were what seemed a chaotic mess and yet, I felt as though I was floating through time with "we'll see" as my statement. I applied compassion, and "I don't know", and allowed for myself to be celebrated. So many beautifully ironic and curious moments. So much "getting together" as things on the other end looked torn apart. Life.

This weekend, the facts sounded similar.... and the story being "read" and "written" is ever-evolving through each choice in the moment we make. Will we stay the same and stuck? Or will we allow "stories" that no longer serve us to be "let go" and no longer narrate how things will move forward...

A different sentence and response has been written.... so we'll see ...

And thanks to ALL who have contributed to the irony that has been unfolding. Some day, I will share this story with more detail...for now, it is amplifying my gratitude and putting a smile on my face

( I chose this pic because its one of my favs )

#thankyouGod #Divineunion #celebrated #cherished #storieswetellourselves #servingorNonserving #yourchoice #FlowForward #lifetotheFull #birthdays