The quick and easy! Why playing the long game gets you the results you want and more...

 Good Mawning!!

The quick and easy!

Don't we just love a good quick fix? Where we don't have to think about it and it just comes to us? Where it's a one and done and we "avoid" the mess of the process and possibly getting it wrong or messing it up?

I will admit, I applied to myself like it was a science experiment and I calculated the perimeters that would help me to achieve the success I was looking for.

I could see the end result and what that looked like... back into my pre-baby weight body and enjoying being more able-bodied and lean.

I even went as far as applying the psycho-science of Pavlov' s dog and implemented rewards to help me move along the way.

I created this system for myself, applied it, and it worked amazingly! I was 100 lbs down in a year's time! WOOHOO...

Isn't that what I wanted? To lose the weight and have kept it off (for the most part)?

But where I am sitting now and many years beyond the success, I am realizing... had I played the long game in my "quick and easy" process... had I added in the metrics of carrying forward that success with the extended plan and supports... how much more would I have enjoyed knowing that I truly live the LIFESTYLE as well as having and ENJOYING the results long term...

In the years that followed, I realized I left a LOT of good on the table.

I just wanted the pain to end.

I figured that IF I had the body back, it would fix things that weren't so great. Relationships, the mother shaming, the loss of connection...

I realized, as much as external validation of doing something is often sought after to give us the "high five" and "job well done" that we were looking for, it's not really there when we get "there".

Wherever "there" is.

The quick fix I have found (and yes, I have many of them in my back pocket ) is a great tool along the way, but the hype drops off pretty hard and fast if you don't plan for the long game. Keeping the end in mind....HOLDING onto that bigger vision and walking IN it day by day.... WOW! Does that feeling last a whole lot longer from the inside than we allow ourselves to experience.

I just gave myself a GLIMPSE of being on the path in the awesome bigger picture for my life and it gave me chills. It gave the "you're doing great, keep going" and the "you rocked adapting to that change, you are totally living this".... that internal encouragement...seeing YOURSELF in the picture (more on this this week as I explore it for myself) and enjoying what you see being played out....is so much more fulfilling than the "instant" gratification of the shiny things along the way.

Again, I'm not saying the "biohacks" and the "quick fixes" don't have their place. It worked for me to gain back the body I wanted to be in for a time.

But consider your WHOLE PICTURE of the life you want to be living. The bigger picture of YOUR life experience and how you can be enjoying it, SHARING IT (This is the part I could have done more with), and enhancing it along the way.

What does YOUR life vision look like? Or how do parts of it look like for you? Family? Leisure? Experiences? Please share with me! I love hearing about the beautiful things that others envision

#thankyouGod #biohacking #quickfix #biggerpicture #playthelonggame #InJoy #connect #internalrewards #LifeToTheFullest #holdtheVision #trusttheprocess #LoveFirst #lifejourney #oneanotherlove

Interrupting the cycle of harm. Accepting and loving yourself

 Good mawning!

Interrupting the cycle of harm.

This morning I have a headache.

I got up knowing what it was from and going through the ways I could fix it. Fresh air? Cold water on my face? Purge it? .... I settled on drinking water and lay back down at an incline.

And as I laid there in bed, I was reminded of a time that our son had a life-defining tantrum.

I can't even remember what he wanted so bad that he felt I was keeping him from it. And he wound himself up so tightly, that deciding he would hold his breath would be a way to control my response.

He passed out.

I moved him somewhere safe, and when he came to, he frantically looked around. He then realized and connected the action of him holding his breath to his current situation and in that moment began a journey he still struggles with today.

He hated missing out on the moment of what was happening. He wanted to be present as much as possible for what was happening. PURE FOMO! It was hard to get him to nap. I was okay with him getting angry at me when he woke because he felt like he missed something.

This time, it was "his fault". And he knew it.

He started hitting himself. Toddlers will often do that to express themselves, especially if they can't quite talk yet. He could. The words were coming out and the fists were flying. And I reached out to pull him in, and fill him in on what had just happened. And then he cried.

Finally! Acceptance.

We can't control everything.

Have you ever felt out of control? Have you ever gotten upset when things didn't go the way you expected them to? And do you... find yourself getting down on yourself for not doing this or that? Do you use language and thoughts that weighs yourself down ...maybe to "motivate" you to change or to "DO better" next time?

For me, yesterday, I made a choice.

I didn't make the change that I knew would help. I didn't stop the current course of action, interrupt it, and choose a different direction. And today, I hurt. I also missed a few items in my environment that contributed to the headache today.

I'll make note of that, and use my current experience as a reminder for next time. There may very well be a next time. This is not the first time. That's how I could access and know what adjustments will work .... for next time.

And today, more water, more detox, more fresh air...

Life happens. This is a moment out of many.

For my son, I chose to stand in the place of that interruption going forward. It was better for him to get angry at me and move quicker into acceptance than to go full on into the depths of that downward spiral and harm himself. I've seen the depths. I definitely didn't want to stay there. I had family hit their depths...and the spiral down was very fast and the landing at the bottom hit them hard. Many I have talked to didn't know how they got there and they struggle to imagine themselves existing outside of it.

We can interrupt for our own safety and well-being. We can also seek help, without judgment, to support us in breaking that cycle . If you feel you are in that cycle, reach out for support. With both practice and support, interrupting our harmful patterns because easier and self-nourishing and loving.

Now, to go and make myself a tea, and enjoying seeing myself in a new day with Sawubona and care <3

#thankyouGod #interrupt #selfcare #compassion #choose #LoveFirst #giveyourselfspace #processthemoment #beingpresent #sawubona #seeyourself #greaterstill #biggerpicture #livelifefully

Returning to Wholeness

 Good morning!

Wholeness is on my mind this morning. It's actually been my journey this past week. Being honest with myself, looking back down my life's path, and gathering up all the fragments that were "broken" off and putting them back with the rest of "me".

On a global scale, it's about FINALLY ripping of the layers of bandages and stacked up bandaid on top of bandaid that were intended to "fix" systems that were created, instead of going back to the wound or problem and seeing if the applied "solution" actually served to heal the "problem" in the first place.

It was no longer about serving beneficially as much as it became about applying another "fix" to something that wasn't a sustainable solution in the first place.

"Oh no! The stickiness of the bandage is fading! Quick! Apply another!"

It's all being ripped bare right now and we get to honestly look at what needs healing, what has already been fixed, and what didn't need messing with in the first place.

Now, journeying back to our individual experiences....For me, it's been about claiming back my energy by forgiveness of doubt, betrayal, and mockery (as well as allowing myself to become "disempowered"). Releasing the charge back to others, and stepping back into the innocence of the gifts I was giving...back into the creation that was coming through me, and back into the heart that was willing to serve others freely with my God-given talents and skills.

And my next step....to share more fully about MY journey with immunity. From deficiency, suppressed, and compromised, into overactive responses with allergies and hypersensitivities....as well as multiple autoimmunity challenges....and how I navigate being in improved health day in and day out through and with it all.

Much love to you all as we ALL go on this journey of returning to wholeness (We ARE a part of the awe and wonder and nature...) Have a great and health filled day

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #Divinegifts #INjoy #weAREmore #wholeness #healing #health #salud #cleanereating #oneanotherlove