The power of the side by side conversation...

 Good mawning!

The power of the side by side conversation...

I did let the content of the conversation fade... After I picked him up (later than HE expected me to, on time for what I said I would ), we enjoyed a deep, heartfelt conversation.

I should have taken notes.

I think I say that almost every time we have a one on one conversation together. It always feels like the sun-bathed pictures, but with me at his feet....basking in his perspective.

This time I can honestly say, I don't recall what he said, but for SURE I know what it was that I felt. I felt a sense of peace, feeling that he will be alright.

Honestly, I don't always have that feeling. With the joyful ups and downs of being a teen and especially from his experience, there are times that swing a little too far for my own comfort as a mother. But after our little chat, with a bit of my humour and humility tossed in (I do remember that I mocked someone for being overdressed for the weather and not even a minute later a blizzard blows in LOL... and only in that park space too . Weirdest thing!), I knew he would continue to grow wise. He will apply mindfully what he learns and ponders.

It made me realize as well how many conversations that I have where it's not a side by side sharing. It's not in appreciation or with the heart of gleaning, but from the "seat" of schooling the other.

And then it draws me back to the moments where the "mind chatter" used to talk OVER me. How do you "talk" or speak with yourself? What is that internal relationship and ongoing conversation sounding like? Do you celebrate and glean from your insights and thoughts? Or are you putting off the "good" thoughts in your head with dismissal, doubt and a dominating "overwriter"?

Perhaps we could have more side by side conversations WITH ourselves as we grow on this journey and let that trickle over into our physical, one-on-one conversations with others.

This week I plan to take notes

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WAIT! Is he parking the CAR??

Good mawning!

As I sit here this morning reflecting on my week, yesterday sits as a MUCH bigger moment than I realized.

LOL let me highlight the main issue from yesterday...having to go pee!! 🤣🤣

Honestly! It is now rated as one of the WORST feelings of driving AND having the urgency of going to the toilet at the same time!

I picked up the boys from school and got the "light". Gas on empty and I still had to drive one of the boys to a youth event...which meant to stop and get gas. We were only 10 minutes away from home...

Roll into the gas station and that bugger was backed up LOL🤣. I am not going to even give it a thought. I'm going to choose the shortest line with mid-sized vehicles and go from there. YES! This line is moving fastest! I got this!!

But of course, when you step outside and change temperature, AND go from sitting to standing....the urgency returns. I pumped in as much gas as I could and then hustled back into the car to hopefully settle it down. (As a side note, when I was retelling this to hubby and he asked why I didn't just use the store....yeah, at that point, I thought I could manage it...so be it. Lesson "re" learned ;P )

I drove conscientiously. It was 10 minutes from home!! And for the first 5 minutes, I could mindset it away... and then I couldn't. My bladder felt so full! 🤣 I could feel my workout and planks from the inside now LOL. As I pulled up sideways across the driveway and sidewalk and ran to the door, another obstacle occurred...the door wouldn't open.

Keypad registered the code, and yup! Would open. Tried again, and got it wrong...DOH!!! My son runs to help...tries the code and the special door tug, and it wouldn't open for him either. He gets his key and we open the door....I ran in and yeah....was in pain but now relieved. 😮

Vowing I wouldn't do that again and also realizing I still needed to head back out to the bank, I gathered myself back up and as I walked outside, the car was being parked neatly in front of my house....

WHAT???? Who's driving it??? 😲😲 AND WELL!!

We had practice sessions twice. I had them each move the car from the front to the back driveways a few times. Other than that, I said "Sit up front, get your imaginary steering wheel and pedals in place, and watch me drive."

I ran around to the car and looked at him...and he was beaming with confidence and doing what I would do. Checking mirrors, his gears...

And in that moment, I knew he was ready. In that moment, HE knew he was ready. In that moment, the flash of one of the moments I wanted to live to see was playing out before my eyes. And the WHOLE journey that got us to that MINUTE in space was worth it!

Including that mad rush of body exodus I just experienced 🤣🤣🤣

I've been #raisingmen all this time and now, they are MEN! 😭😭😭 Running to my aid, showing up with solutions, doing what NEEDS to be done in the moment because it's needed and they are capable....

My heart is full! This week was full! That was only ONE incident out of many... 💓

Stay tuned... this momma is going to be gushing about it this week LOL.

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