I was angry yesterday. How to work through our emotions and stories

 Good mawning!

I let "my" anger express itself yesterday.

The flurry through which we create...

Those "stories that we tell", those conclusions we rush to make, those generalizations that we paint others with so broadly, those "villains" we create in our stories...

If we sit in that space and ponder it... if we give it that "cud-worthy" chewing experience (a.k.a. overthinking), we have already written a book and we start "applying" it like an instruction manual.

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I will admit, I can see where the "anger" journey began. Being compared against. The bearer of disappointment. Not meeting up with someone's expectations. And I didn't express my frustration... I just let go.

...or so I thought.

Sometimes we think something is so small that it should be blown off. But it did matter to us. It's those "small" things... And expressing that it mattered is important for us to do. That we find value in our perspective and journey. That we feel a certain way. Even if it's not from our "highest expression". That we can be heard. And seen. And celebrated.

And as much as you don't want to take things "so" personally, it can be a struggle in relationships. All types of relationships. And simply put...it really IS more about how we are perceiving and responding in the moment. It's more individual than personal. LOL if that makes sense.

At an individual level in our journey, we are always being "called" to fuller and more authentic expression. Even our emotions want to flow and happen. They are like signposts...

And for me...I needed to share and FLOW through this emotion yesterday. With the support of a coach, I was able to walk through the fullness of it. Past and current triggers, choices and possibilities, frustration, love, grief, sorrow, acceptance. In less than 30 min, I had moved from anger into neutrality, and had a plan for however things would workout, PLUS the constant truth that... most of the time, my unnerving story creation gets proven "wrong", especially if I have placed a conclusion in there. LOL, and this is where I LOVE being wrong <3 ;)

You gotta allow for the bigger and more serving possibility WHILE still going through your stuff. Even just a mustard seed of faith can change a life. IT CAN <3

Before the end of the day, the story diminished, the emotion served its purpose, and a new, more serving story was already in progress.

What ways do you allow yourself to ben seen, heard, and expressed?

It's part of the journey. We are all walking it together...individually

#thankyouGod #honourtheprocess #allthefeels #expressyourself #challengeyourstories #Lookforthegood #divinelysupported #lifetothefull #Lovefirst #Sawubona #seeyourself #WeAre #greaterstill

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Navigating the cave.

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Navigating the cave...

He was done. Tired of a job and industry, this pic was taken the day after he got laid off.

And this was only minutes before he drove away and set out across the country to see his parents.

I don't usually share in this way, but I feel that people right now may need to hear this.

This departure wasn't simply a trip to visit his folks before the holidays...he was in the "cave" of his journey (again) and needed space to sort himself out.

If you haven't heard of the "hero's journey", I suggest you give it a search. I may expand more on it and how I use it to help others navigate their perspective (and subsequent actions) in relation to where they find themselves on that journey.

Each of our journeys are our own. And we will cycle through the aspects of the hero's journey many times in our lives as we continue to grow and expand.

For our household, as we continue to grow and expand, we also experience going through the ups and downs. Due to a variety of health issues, including mental, we find that navigating depression (or being in the cave) comes more often than not. Or at least that's how it feels.

When we are in that space which feels constricting, dark, uncomfortable....many feel that it is "wrong" to be there. Then we make it unwanted, wrong, shameful, and give it meaning that we are broken and we need to fix it.

But what if it is just part of the journey. What if...it is where you were meant to be? What if it is that cave and that internal work you alone must go through, that part to collect your unique learning, reward, awareness, and growth on the other side?

What if you're being born into YOUR "new" on the other side, and although uncomfortable and unknown, you know it's temporary and worth the process.

On the other side of his month long trip, he came back with more "space" to process. And in the months that followed, more acceptance and contentment. More appreciation for what and who he had in his life....including himself.

It's not about the "not okay" moments, but maybe moreso allowing it to be "different".

And it's okay to experience different things in life...emotions and states too.

#ThankyouGod #lifejourney #steppingintogrowth #makespace #expansion #depression #notalone #mentalhealth #mentalhealing #intothecave #itsokaytobedifferent #entrepreneurlife #fromoldtonew #fromold #personaldevelopment #wellnesscoach #herosjourney

Getting in the picture. Being fully present in your experiences

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Getting in the picture...

The irony of sharing with others about getting in the picture means... getting in the picture myself LOL. Which also means BEING in the moments I am living and not just doing them and then looking back on my day wondering what all was accomplished.

It's presence! It's YOUR presence in YOUR moments that you are physically in! And then bring your mind and spirit along for the ride. That is KEY!

So many give over their body to the expectation of physical presence and are not there in thought, mind, and spirit. And this has created many problems in the mental health world with numbers that are rising on the crisis side of health than we imagined.

So, let's bring it back to you...being IN the moment of the picture. You being present in WHOLENESS and tasting, feeling, sensing, witnessing, AND participating in YOUR experience.

It's the simple things that make it work.

Taking a simple moment and picking ONE sense. (I'm picking smell) Breathe in and notice.... (I'm smelling the lingering aroma of "fire pit") And choose to make a factual observation... (we burned would in our fire pit last night) And now I am making an adjective based statement in my head...(It was a sunny, warm, and friendly outdoor gathering with a handful of friends) I'm noticing the the emotions around it and the smile on my face, and the subtle nod of my head.

Now to do that with all your moments ... enjoy each experience. I journal and count my wins which is often a roll call for the moments and things I did throughout the day. Yesterday was a full day of making each of those moments count.

How about you? This is not a comparison and technically I am "talking" to the voice in your head that is the "reader"...and that gets to be the observer . What things did you do yesterday (or even think and feel or smell and taste) that you can recall from the "picture" of your life you lived yesterday?

#thankyouGod #biggerpicture #life #experience #beingpresent #injoy #LoveFirst #connect #savorthemoment #mindbodysoul #wholeness #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #mentalwellbeing #mindsetmatters #presentmoment #observe