How is the world a better place when I play big?

How is the world a better place when I play big?

The world is is better when I play big because I am here to serve with my gift of support, perspective, energy, and presence.
I am an encourager. I am a compassionate encourager. I am a supportive, compassionate encourager and teacher. All of these things were prompted into "being" as they were not available to me at the time I needed them most.
A dear friend of mine experienced an upheaval in her life which caused us to no longer be in our friendship relationship as it was. I am truly grateful for the friends we got to be at the time we were able to. I learned the depth of one another relationships that we can all experience...triggering power and strength. Lighting us up from the core and that that "feeling" doesn't have to be misinterpreted as "sexual", but it is how the core of our creative and soul energy feels. It love connection and the "one another" walk.

And that is a big gift I share forward into the lives of others I encounter or get to be in experience with me.

But when there was this dark void and a bunch of unsolicited commentary and opinions coming at me, I needed compassion. I needed someone in my space that would encourage me. I needed the support to keep on keeping on.

The quote "Be the change that you desire to see in the world" (often credited to Mahatma Gahndi) is what helped me to choose to step into and up to the challenge of being the change. Perhaps, if I put this into the world, I can at least be inspired by seeing it in action.

So I chose to encourage. ANd I could see how many people find encouragement "suspect". And I realized that it was indeed "missing" in the lives around me because it wasn't in practice.

This is where I learned the gift that the perfection is in practicing. ANd our practicing allows for the becoming.

People around me and even clients began to "see the change" in their lives and their lives changed. This "unseen" gift giving tangible results. This unseen practice giving way to the experience of becoming MORE OF the person they have desired to be. This becoming in THEIR lives leading to better and best experienced all around them and in the world that we are in.

Now THAT is encouraging!

Seeing myself gift to the world my bigger and better self to inspire others to live and do the same heart

Have you forgotten...?

 

Saw this and just had to share.

For me, it's dancing as much as I used to.

How about you?

Joy is the happiness that does not depend on what happens

 

Here is the quote in fuller context...

“It is not happiness that makes us grateful It is gratefulness that makes us happy. Every moment is a gift. … Whatever life gives to you, you can respond with joy. Joy is the happiness that does not depend on what happens. It is the grateful response to the opportunity that life offers you at this moment.”

― David Steindl-Rast

#greatreminder #gratitude #givingthanks #aweandwonder #chooseyourhappy #ofgreatValue #lifetothefull #trusttheprocess #mindsetmatters #mentalhealth #personalmastery #perspective #mentalwellness #joy #INjoy #bepresent #appreciation

We are always experiencing our evolution

 Good mawning!

Evolution...

We are always experiencing it and it was a part of our agreement with coming into this life/world.

I AM.... many things, and I am currently evolving my work...

As a mindset and lifestyle coach who works with people to embrace their lives in a more fulfilling and joy-filled way, I get to see people get excited about applying the tools in their own lives. Moving from stuck and disempowered to celebrating and walking confidently through their own journey.

They embrace being an active part of their own process and evolution. They celebrate making confident decisions that move them forward in their goals and daily tasks. And they know they are supported in the life they are wanting to live and create for themselves.

I'm in my OWN process right now. Expanding my own "toolset" and testing things out. Applying what I am learning, experiencing the results, and... excited to share and already sharing with my clients, expanding the framework I was already using.

I truly believe we are all designed to share our "goodness " with others.

I just happen to be really passionate about sharing in the growth and expansive journeys of others.

How do you share from what you learn? Do you share what is working for you in your life or do you keep it to yourself? LOL I've gotten slapped with..."Why didn't you tell me??" so often, that I just share with as many as I can... still working on it. I'm evolving, what can I say?

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #Divinegifts #biggerpicture #ofgreatValue #expecttogrow #expansion #learning #dailypractice

#mindsetcoach

#kaizen #ShareYourGifts #goodnews #oneanotherlove

Enjoy and connect... and be the light.

 One of the highlights from a very FULL week...making this bouquet.

It sits as a highlight among the fullness that is described in Ecclesiastes 3. From the celebration of abundance to the chaos of parenting and discipleship...to the perfect timing and following gut instinct to being amongst beauty and support... to mourning and comforting others in their "loss" to reconnection and growth... and to allowing myself to sit back and appreciate all which was created and experienced through it all.

I'm going to follow the wisdom of those who transitioned... you better enjoy and connect... and be the light.

LIVE life to the full! Both memorials this week celebrated those who lived and loved fully. One older and one younger...

Thank you for sharing the lives you lived and inspiring us all to do the same.

And I am going to start here with gratitude

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #Divinegifts #biggerpicture #ofgreatValue #lifetothefull #Sawubona #LoveFirst

It's okay to SEE YOURSELF in new ways. You are free to frow

 Good mawning! (somewhere ;) )

I am not the wholeness of what I have done... otherwise they couldn't get to be who they are now or will become.

Imagine... you have done a thing or thought something of yourself and you have stuck WITH "it"... periodt!

And "it" is happy as a clam! It's existence persists while you are being latched on to who you were in the past.

Even though your very being desires to change, you believe that if the change can't happen while you remain the same, then it's being difficult.

What if you just unlatched yourself? Be weaned from the milk and habits of your "youth". Flowing 'with' your growth and change may seem scary, but it is actually less work or thought, filled with adventure and discovery, and where you are designed to be.

It's okay to grow. To dance. To find out what it feels like to leave "it" sitting at a table in the corner while you excuse yourself and "try on" this experience of dancing for yourself.

You are okay and safe in the living of life that is calling. It's okay to love and show love in new ways. It's okay to create in new ways. It's okay to SEE YOURSELF in new ways.

Be.

And from "doing" that step, you will have life to enjoy... And maybe even more fully.

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #Divinegifts #letitgo #letitgrow #tistheseason #growthmindset #fixedmindset #mindsetmatters #mentalhealth #mentalwellness #relationships #biggerpicture #ofgreatValue #lifetothefull #Sawubona #LoveFirst #raisingmen

Have robins in your life that will sing your melody back to you with encouragement

 Good mawning!

A robin perched outside our kitchen window and began to sing. I tried to whistle back to the bird in a similar song and got it totally wrong LOL. My son cringed (the music guy) and laughed at me while shaking his head. I sounded NOTHING like the robin ( I can usually do a decent bird song) and the melody was totally off. And after a long pause, the robin chimed back in….matching the melody I had whistled. WOW! I shared my amazement to the bird and thanked it for its encouragement and connection. And then again! It did the same melody back to me as though prompting me to follow suit. More than 3 times…while I just continued to speak back with my “regular” speech. Usually I am up for the challenge of mimicking the melody of a bird singing and whistling it back…but not this time You see, I was already in shutdown…from continuing on with my window of connection and creation. A reflex I found myself in recently that cut in on my creative mode. It was a moment that inspired a big pivot. But at least I kept the conversation going with the robin and the robin continued to sing back to me in response. It was a beautiful moment and reminded me of a very important check in… Are you surrounded by celebrators or scoffers? Are you being built up or shut down? As I am stepping into a new phase and energy of vision creation, I know that the circle around me this time will be more aligned to the vision I am creating. Every “success” I have sought had those around me or in my circle of influence present due to their ability to support the vision that was coming into form. I encourage you to have robins in your life that will sing your melody back to you with encouragement…to keep going and to keep trying. To continue to explore and connect and make and create… To sing with those who are eager to celebrate your song. Not like the “scratching-ears” thing, but as a call to grow and stretch yourself to new edges of what you’ve seen as possible and be in the joy, delight, wonder, and connection of it all. There is such love and living in the process of life…if we allow it to be. #ThankyouGod #lifetothefull #encouragement #biggerpicture #ofgreatValue

Let’s talk about perfect

 Let’s talk about perfect

Definition: having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics; as good as it is possible to be.

We’re done!

You ARE already! For the moment that you are in now and the life you are living now AND for who you will become from the place you stand in now, you are perfect.

What if you allowed yourself to question…?

How do I ALREADY have all the required or desirable elements?
How do I ALREADY have all the required or desirable qualities?
How do I already have ALL the required or desirable characteristics?

How are things as good as they can possibly be?

This prompts for me more questions…

For what? What is the main objective? WHO holds the main objective? What is the plan or intention that is operating?

And… how could I possibly add anything additional to the moment that I am in now before it passes?

You see, as I look at this definition (I haven't referred to my old crusty dictionary that I found in the shed yet LOL) and contemplate, I know that my contemplation of it is perfect in this moment.

It’s currently my quiet time, where I listen to and study out God’s word and get into conversations (podcasts, videos, reels, etc.) and this word stood out to me in what they were sharing.

I then opened up a bible resource, and looked up scriptures with the word, “perfect”. I saw many that spoke of God’s Way and Word being perfect and then the phrase came to my head (no more can be added and it serves a great purpose).

I then referred to the dictionary to see what they had to say about the word perfect.  And upon seeing that it is” …as good as it is possible to be”, I found myself washed over with peace and connection. It rested on me as a dove… it reminded me of the zen philosophy of Enso (part of my core “toolbox”), and in that space I felt grounded, centered,  and supported.

You see, this week I felt the weight of not having met a timeline I had been working toward. Even the idea of moving the needle forward to allow for more time, just didn’t seem to “fit”. I haven’t given up, but I do know that, years ago when I “struggled”(?) with perfectionism, this would have tore me up inside. It would have started a wave of critical self-talk, using phrases that were whipped against me for years from others that were in my life. I took on that harmful language as my own, proving them “right” over and over again. One or two phrases still haunt me out loud. I can kinda hear one right now… and then the voice of advocacy comes in with compassion and grace and reminds me… “...things are …as good as it is possible to be”.

WOW right?? Look how that stepped in and made Grace my companion. <3 

So this goes back to some of my original questions… “What is the plan or intention behind this “perfection”?

Well, I think it depends on how people relate to the idea of “perfection” and ultimately the relationship they create with it.

For me, my relationship with “perfection” NOW is one of grace, compassion, and celebration. It’s one that is connected to a bigger picture. And that bigger picture has me “...as good as it is possible to be” moment to moment, choice by choice. If I believe that I am divinely supported and celebrated to be my better and best self each day, wouldn’t I continue to take steps to follow through with some sort of action (again another toolbox zen philosophy, kaizen, chimes in here) each day so that I can partake in the witnessing of what is being “observed” at some higher viewpoint over my life?

I remember the exact moment that I was released from the perfectionism “prison” I found myself in…

I was shoveling snow. We lived in our westend condo. Our neighbours had a rough night (they lived a rough life…) And it was first thing in the morning. He was out for a smoke and I was playing with the phrase “practice makes perfect”. He spoke up and said, “Why are you shovelling now? You know it’s just going to get covered in snow again in a few hours.” And I replied, “Perfection is in the practicing.” BOOM! The door to the prison cell flung open and I realized that it’s the practice of LIVING that holds “our” perfection. And that it is unique to each and every one of us. My prayer for having compassion for humanity was answered in that moment. Or at least in a tangible way that I could move forward and apply into my life.

It’s in THIS space that I recognize that we are both enough as we are right now AND in the full permission to pursue “more” and “better” and “best” and “excellence” and mastery in our lives going forward. It’s by design…and I think that “design” is pretty “perfect”. ;) 

The scripture Phil 4:8 is one of my favourites, “ Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. “

Alrighty, time to perfectly continue with my morning routine and the rest of my day. What a “perfect” quiet time this was ;) 

As diamonds are formed. Perspective on the pressures of life

 As diamonds are formed

Photo by Doz Gabrial on Unsplash

I had this amazing experience a few days ago.

I reached a point of completion on a project that has taken a bit of “push” and persistence to complete.

I equated the process to childbirth in a post I wrote for a group before the completion point. Many “contractions” that came in waves (trust me, that’s it for the details LOL). And if I didn’t know that I was “pregnant” with a thing, then I would assume that there was something wrong with me or the situation that I was in. I would want to get out of the pain and far away from the situation as quickly and as far as possible.

But from experience, I realized that feeling and familiar “pressure” that was upon me….to get it OUT and let it “breathe” and live life. Let this “creation” that wants to be born take in air and continue to grow in its own way, with proper nurturing and care.

For those that create programs and products, you know that there is already a version 2 coming after version 1 is launched. 

So the project in its infancy was born, but I noticed a continuation of the pressure and disruptions…

And then it dawned on me… why are these things coming in increasing measure? Why is it, as I progress in my journey and growth, are there now more of these pressures being added onto me LOL? 

In a space where one problem is solved and it’s solution applied and embraced, a new level of “problems” arise. It just opens up a new door of opportunity…for different problems to be met with the new solutions that you can provide.

As you grow more and more into the “answer” for someone else’s need, you will experience the nudge to continue to show up with the gift that YOU are. You being revealed as  a radiant and shiny diamond doesn’t happen without some pressure.

However, this realization or pondering, as it were, also made me value even more the importance of being supported in our journeys.

We can’t do this journey alone. It has always been intended for this life we are living to be shared with the presence and support of others.

I am surrounded by a community. Not just those in my neighbourhood, but also those of like-mindedness in multiple areas of my life. I also have coaches and mentors who support me. I am working on building a “team” of supports in business… At every level of my life, I am NOT alone in my growth and progress.

And neither should you be.

Seek out support. Turn to those in your life that are currently supporting you and thank them with your appreciation.

Give your whole-hearted awareness to their contributions that help you to keep going each day.

I hope this pondering blesses you in some way. And if you feel compelled to share or reach out, please do.

#thankyouGod #lifetothefull #oneanotherlove #radiant #underpressure #refinement #greaterstill #weare #ubuntu #Divineradiance

Are you willing to give the little things more life?

 Good mawning!

Are you willing to give the little things more life?

I found this flower...as I was stepping out of my car to run into the grocery store to grab something.

I was alone in the parking lot. I assume it dropped off of someone's bouquet they bought.

But I squealed with excitement at this thing I found and ran back to the car to give it a safe place.

The grocery store didn't have what I went in for, but I did come away with more than I expected.

Delight! Awe! Wonder! Compassion and excitement.

And then I forgot it in the car

I woke up in the morning remembering I didn't take it out and ran and got. Quickly putting it in water and hoping for the best.

WHY all this effort LOL? Because I love seeing things live. I also love knowing that I can nurture something to be more alive, even if just for a moment.

You see, I believe we ALL deserve to be supported in living a more fulfilling life. I think it's at the heartbeat of enjoying excellence and showing up with confidence and purpose.

Do you feel you are living that way? Full and with the support in your living?

I know I need that life-giving experience and support in my day to say living...and perhaps you are the same.

I'm looking forward to sharing a beautiful experience of support with a group this July. Embracing the sights, sounds, and support in a once in a lifetime experience...

If you would like to know more, send me a message or comment.

And for today, know that you are cherished and celebrated...because you ARE alive and living.

#ThankyouGod #gratitude #Divinegifts #oneanotherlove #ofgreatValue #lifetothefull #Sawubona #LoveFirst #lifetothefull #Sawubona #relationships #supportmatters #entrepreneur

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