The fruit of a healthy connection

 Good mawning!

The spark is so small, but it lights fires.

The details... 

I wanted to make sure that I was aware of the little ways that I could connect with my children and our family. 

My heart was SO longing to create the space of genuine interest and connection. A space where someone cared about what I wanted to say. Even in the smallest of things...like the relationships of elephants and how you can see rainbows in the water Little things. I was wanting for someone to just hear me out. 

I knew that growing up could be tough for our kids. And I also knew that many kids don't share half of what they experience in life with their parents, because of a breakdown in their communication.

It was in those details that I knew I could piece together what their experience and life was really like... that I could really ask more questions and fill in the fuzzy parts of the picture. I could find out more about what was making my family tick and how they think. 

I could encourage from that space. I could choose appropriate and heart-felted gifts from that space. AND, it built up a confidence in me and "selfishly" a way to authentically express and connect with others.

I was no longer having awkward interactions with strangers. I could better meet the needs of my neighbours. I could put together what needs were being expressed and find solutions... 

All this from not wanting my own childrens' voices to go unheard and their emotional and mental needs unmet. I had been there. Silenced, isolated. I could see it happening to them. And I didn't want for them what I went through. I wanted for them what I had created for myself....a safe space to express and share.

This has lead to a journey of working on standing in their own voice...and ultimately standing in my own voice. And in that it has created the way to really connect in with joy and gratitude more and more.

I could choose what behaviours I wanted give my energy to and how to express my emotions in a way that served both myself and the boys. 

And the learning isn't over. It's all still a process....but the fruit of a healthy connection that continues to evolve as we each find our more authentic voice has been so fulfilling...and I am excited to share it more with others.

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